spanking to potty train a child

Yes, you'rer reading that title well: spanking to potty train a child.

I blogged about a something I found on internet.

A child was exposed on internet, on the potty, and the mother blogged about spanking to get her child develop to a potty trained little boy.

Because we had to bring in a case to the course of developmental psychology I took the subject and put in forced potty training as a case study.

Is it good to force a child into a developmental stage in which development is directed by physical development and sensitivity to bodily triggers?

The subject was welcomed in different ways, but all positive.

We discussed the subject from our experiences, which was very interesting.
Some didn't remember anything from that time, other remembered the gift they got in the end and some the terrible experience when they had an accident some years later.

All in all, it's the reaction of the parent that makes an emotional difference that can be of importance through life.

The teacher thought the subject interesting enough to plan it again for next week, and he wants to invite the professor in to give more theoretical background.

When I started it all: "inspired by a blog", they laughed about me, but when my fellow students behaved quite different.

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childcare and wrong decisions

Studying special subjects means visiting other universities too.

Today I had to go to another university for some lectures about childabuse, a special subject I've taken.

It was very informative, but I got the impression these people of childcare are completely fixed on saving the child, without caring for the effects on the long run.

One of the casus they presented was about a little girl that was abused by the friend of the mother.
The child was taken away from the home, placed in temporary foster care.

One of the students asked if they gave the mother psychological support.
The woman who gave the lecture was very uncomfortable with the question.
She didn't give a clear answer.

Another student asked why the other 2 children were not taken into care.
According to the lecturer they weren't harmed and they didn't expect to be harmed.

I asked why there wasn't a court order to get the friend of the mother out of the house. He could be detained.
She answered that they didn't have full proof it was him.

I don't understand...the mother had gone for help because the friend was abusing the child. That should be proof enough to get that friend out of the home and leave the girls with her family.

Then she said they were afraid the mother might take the loss of her friend against the child.

Well, I told her I considered her answer as a statement that they didn't really care what harm they do by taking a child from the family.

It will also be bad publicity when this comes in the media, because it means that other women will think twice when they report a friend or spouse.

She answered it was an old case.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

On the train back we were still discussing her attitude and forgot to look around to see the wonderful blossoming trees.

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